Men over 40 ... Dating

Hi, something new today.....DATING

So, you are over 40 and you've found yourself 'back in the game', well if you have dated for a couple of years you are in for a shock.

A lot of things have changed but, so take a breath, a lot of things are still the same.
So lets start with why you should be confident about getting out there. Here are some facts about men over 40 and why we are a good gamble.

• Older guys are better in bed. Usually...

• Older guys are more established in their career, and they have more time dating

• Older guys have more interests and hobbies to include a new partner…

• Older guys are also in a better place financially.

So remember when we first started looking for a 'significant other' it was all bars and clubs. The good news is, if you don't want to shout your lungs out or have the courage of a lion to approach a woman, there are alternatives.

Of course you can still go down that route but chances are all your old 'wingmen' are now probably married. This leaves you to trawl on your own...and that can make you look a bit creepy.

Work is an option, however, if it doesn't work out it could end up..AWKWARD...

One of the most popular routes now is 'on line' dating. 

There are lots of sites from the 'free' to the 'very expensive'. Of course these too can have their pitfalls.

We'll cover them later, but first we'll look at tips to start you off...

1. Know what you're looking for. 

Before diving into the online dating sea, you should be aware of what type of relationship you're after. Whether it's a no-strings-attached rendezvous, casual dating or a serious relationship, pick one and create your profile with that in mind.

2. Put yourself in the shoes of your potential date.

Most women on these sites get dozens of messages a day. Many will be almost pornographic, others simply trawling..make sure you stand out, Try humour, or something more unusual.

3. Show, don't tell.

A lot of men make 'statements' such as 'genuine sense of humour' 'I'm bonkers' 'Really funny guy' Chances are if you need to tell, you're not. Instead show you are funny. Oh and if you say 'I'm cool' I think you're probably not.

4. The best type of profile picture may not be what you think.

Surprisingly the worst picture you can post if you want women to respond is one of you smiling and looking at the camera. According to surveys the best performing photos show a guy looking away from the camera, and not smiling.

Try and make the picture show your character...oh and wear clothes...jeeeez

5. Personalize your greeting.

Instead of the generic 'Hi' use something more unusual.

"Yoooo Hooooo"....

6. Message as you would in real life

Be conversational. You wouldn't walk up to a woman in the street and start asking her what colour underwear she was wearing, so don't do it on line. Many women complain that all they get on dating sites is sexually explicit language. If you really want a date, be classy.

7. If you like her, ask her out. 

May sound obvious but,,,, if you like her,ask her out. In order to set her mind at ease that you are not a serial killer,,,even if you are,,,then suggest a daytime meet somewhere busy.

8. Don't play games.

If your interested fine, if your not then don't be a dick, let her know. Women are far more astute than us dumb fellah's and will soon sniff you out!

9. Don't Lie

If you put on your profile your 6 foot and are 4 foot 3...I kinda think you're going to get found out. So be honest and use a recent photo.

Tomorrow we'll look at the best dating sites.

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